Word of the Day

husband (HUZ-bind): noun. 1)a male spouse, 2)a sperm donor and nothing else.

Maybe I'm too young to fully understand this, but it seems that women getting married solely to get pregnant is becoming more common. I know a woman who was pretty desperate to get married (read: wanted a baby NOW), heard the rusty clang of her biological clock (psh. she's like mid thirties. big deal), dated a lot of guys that she met online, found one who proposed after 6 months of dating, and then...uh oh, he hasn't got many swimmers. She's got her baby finally, but apparently isn't interested in sex. Sucks to be him.

And now I learn that another woman, who already HAS a kid, divorces her husband in June of this past summer, and is getting remarried in February. The invitations have already been sent. And why? Because her biological clock is ticking and husband #1 didn't want more kids NOW.

Come on. I understand that having children can be one of life's great joys and is rewarding and all that, and both the women I'm talking about have stable careers, but seriously, how much joy can you get out of raising a child with someone who you obviously chose simply because he's a "he"? And what kind of environment is that for a kid to be raised in?

I don't think it's fair to anyone. For the women, they're settling. For the men, they're being used (or discarded), and for the kids, they're brought up in a house where they're the only reason mommy and daddy are together. And yeah, I understand that it takes two to raise a kid (don't give me any of that "women can do it on their own nowadays" crap. children need fathers. period), but shouldn't the two doing the raising be together because they truly love each other and would be together regardless of whether or not the kid was there?

Seriously, ladies, get a grip. Or adopt if you've actually passed the point where having a baby is an option. I promise, you'll love them just as much, and make a huge difference in someone's life.